When You're Grieving

We are so sorry for your loss.

Grief after the loss of a pregnancy or baby can feel overwhelming, isolating, and unpredictable. 

No matter the circumstances or how long ago your loss occurred, your grief is valid. There is no right timeline and no “correct” way to grieve.

While this journey may feel lonely, please know that you are not alone.

Everyone experiences grief differently. The ideas below are not meant to be a checklist or a roadmap, but gentle suggestions that some parents have found supportive. Take what feels helpful and leave the rest.

 

Gentle guidance for navigating life after pregnancy or infant loss

Give yourself permission

• Take as much personal time as you need following your loss. Healing (physically, emotionally, and mentally) often takes longer than others expect.
• Do not blame yourself or believe that you could have done something differently. Your loss was not your fault.
• Pregnancy loss is not something to be ashamed of. You deserve compassion and understanding.

Honor your grief

• Mourn, remember, and memorialize your child in whatever way feels right to you.
• It may be helpful to put your thoughts and emotions into writing, whether privately in a journal or publicly through storytelling.

Lean on support

• Don’t be afraid to ask for help. If you’re not sure what you need, it’s okay to say that too.
• Talking with a counselor or therapist can be a helpful way to process complex emotions.
• If you wish, talk about your child and your loss. This is your story, and you have every right to share it.

Care for your well-being

• Be mindful of turning to alcohol, drugs, or food for comfort during this vulnerable time, as grief can increase the risk of developing unhealthy coping patterns.
• Review medical bills and insurance coverage carefully. Errors are common, and addressing them can help reduce added stress during an already difficult time.

Grief can sometimes feel unbearable. If you are experiencing symptoms of depression, thoughts of self-harm, or feel unsafe, please seek support from a mental health professional or contact the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline by calling or texting 988 (U.S.). Support is available 24/7.